Pregnancy.. what a joyous time, right? Well it seems that way but you never know what you will expect. Whether this is your first pregnancy, second or even fifth you will never be able to predict what is to come. Let me tell you a little bit about my journey.
For starters I am 28 years "young" so I thought until my husband and I started trying for our second child (7 years after our first). I was 26 years old at the time and it wasn't that simple as it is sometimes played out in movies, shows or even people you know, especially since my first one happened so fast at 18 years old you don't think anything will happen after that. Come to find out everything changes with age, more so your period. My period had always been irregular and doctors never seemed to question so why would I throughout my years? I thought "well I work full-time, I take care of my child, cook, clean etc.. I'm stressed" so that was fine right? WRONG! I wish more research and communication would happen about women's reproductive health regardless of age, because for whatever reason nothing is taken seriously until you hit a certain age range. I would've saved myself and my husband so much time into our journey of becoming parents again had I known there was more to it. Fast-forward to 2020 after years of trying to conceive and being unsuccessful my new doctor recommends me doing a procedure to see if my Ovarian tubes are blocked.. scary, I know! turns out I definitely had blockage on one side. Why do they brush off irregular periods? why is it that nobody ever discussed with me the causes of this.. I was infuriated, sure because of the time wasted but more so that nobody seemed to care. After that procedure, which I will say was extremely painful so do research on pain medication before and after. My experience left me with nobody prescribing me what was needed. My doctor followed up and prescribed me medicine to regulate my period and to hopefully get me pregnant. I was told to try conceiving after a few days when my meds were completed then, take a pregnancy test on day 20 of my cycle.
Some of you are probably wondering why does blockage happen? There are many reasons and I wish I could tell you all of them but the one that stands out the most to me is "birth control or the morning after pill" It is extremely damaging to your body and that there was my proof. I stress to everyone to be really cautious in to what you put into your body and do so much research. I am not going to put you down for taking it as it is your body but I will say take care of it and know there are so many other options and to know your options. I started taking birth control for the first time after I gave birth.. why? because I was told to by family and doctors, I shouldn't have personally. I made the decision and stopped taking birth control a year after giving birth and continued for years but was so guilty of taking the morning after pill occasionally. I know.. what's the difference, there wasn't one other than fear immediately after. All I can say is I have learned and that won't be something I do in the future.
Fast foreword to day 20 after taking my medicine and trying to have a baby.. We are extremely happy to say we are PREGNANT! finally, right? Well that didn't come without hard times. First lets start out by saying we are so blessed and could not believe that this actually worked and is happening. I was in immediate disbelief because after having so many "not pregnant" tests or false positives you don't believe anything at first glance. I woke my husband up at 3am to look at the results and he just knew it was accurate because the test was so dark there was no question. Happy was an understatement of how we were both feeling but definitely a scaring time as this is during a pandemic "Covid-19" to be exact. How could this be such an amazing time but a scary one? They definitely don't prep you for this more so when everyone is trying to learn with you because it is such an unknown time. Doctor visits are on the phone and not as frequent, my husband can't experience the first few ultrasounds. It wasn't our ideal situation but we are continuing to make it the best one.
Those of you who are trying or have been trying to get pregnant, be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself. You are not alone in this journey and I am here to send you all the good vibes and prayers your way. Tell me about your journey. Be well, stay safe and be strong!
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